Sex in Hostels? 4 Do's and Dont's + real life storiesLet’s talk about sex in hostels, a common topic around backpackers, budget travelers, traveler-couples, … you name it.

As part of our guide to hostels, we picked up this topic on sex in hostels.

Make sure you check as well WHAT is a hostel in the first place.

We are now living in the 21st century and more and more people are traveling solo.

Thanks to hostels, meeting new people could never be easier.

Not only that, but hostels have created a unique space for endless opportunities for a fun fling, or two. After all, traveling should be filled with new experiences.

New surroundings, new 5 Star Hostels, or any other type of hostels, new friends – why not add hostel sex to the list of new endeavors?

When you mix ‘doing the nasty’ and a super cool hostel together, it’s bound to create a fun story.

But stop right there! It’s important to remember that your fun isn’t necessarily going to be everyone else. After all, sex is a part of the daily travel life.

Just have a look at this summary of 10 sex-statues around the world or these 14 temples in India with some unexpected monuments to show.

Let’s pack the condoms and have a look then at the 4 do’s and don’t-s of indulging in hostel sex. From London, Rome to Paris to Tokyo to Buenos Aires.

Update: A new, fun hostel sex story from Barcelona.

At the end of the article you can download the guide as a .pdf to your device.

1. “Let’s do it in the dorm room, everyone else does!”


Put yourself in the shoes of a weary traveler trying to sleep.

Suddenly you hear moans and bed-squeaking: the obvious clues that hostel sex has commenced.

Either you interrupt and tell them it isn’t acceptable now, or wait ‘til the morning to turn their cheeks pink.

The bottom line is that no one wants to hear it, and no matter how quiet you think you’re being; chances are everyone can hear you.

Fun read: 40 signs you are a backpacker for too long, including #30 sex in dorms.

And what’s worse than making the beast-with-two-backs in a dorm?

Doing it on the top bunk!

Not only is the poor person below you anticipating a collapsed bed, but you risk your sheets falling over the side and disappearing.

Read: Room types at hostels, including all differences

Sex in Hostels - Private Rooms

2. “Come on let’s check out the views on the rooftop!”


Assuming you’re both traveling on a tight budget: the rooftop, shower, even the cleaning cupboard – if it is private (lockable) and after hours, then your naughty antics shouldn’t upset other hostel-goers.

Those that have tried it suggest aiming for the early hours of the morning when you’re less likely to get caught.

One ‘don’t’ however; sofas and kitchen areas.

Would you really want to reminisce about your rendezvous as you prepare breakfast on the same table the next morning…?

Exactly, so spare others this too.

Read: Are hostels safe? 10 simple safety tips, 1st hand

Sex in Hostels? Get a room!

3. “The staff might catch us, should we be worried?”

DO (worry).

Staff are aware that hostel sex happens, and being (mostly) young and free themselves, they probably don’t care. But!

Respect should be shown to the awesome staff, wouldn’t you agree?

Forums suggest that staff would prefer you to book a private room, and they don’t care if that means asking them at 2am.

It prevents angry dorm-buddies complaining (or making ghost-sounds), and subsequent embarrassment from both parties.

Perhaps you’ll even get a discount as after all, they’d rather sell the room cheaper than not at all.

For those on a (really) tight budget, stick with the shower – staff can easily redirect shocked guests to other facilities, and don’t have to worry about extending their cleaning hours in the morning, if you catch our drift.

Read: Female-only dorms, the 7 pros and 4 cons.

Read: 18 hostel rules and hostel etiquette to build lifelong friendships.

pssst...this photo does not show any 5 Star Hostel.

pssst…this photo does not show any 5 Star Hostel.

4. “A condom? I don’t have one, but don’t let that stop us.”


Ok ok, traveling somewhere new should be filled with spontaneity and excitement, but there should also be limits to your care-free attitude.

It is perfectly acceptable to keep some inhibitions whilst traveling, and safe sex – not just hostel sex – is important.

Don’t let the heat of the moment tell you otherwise!

The only fun things to take away from hostel sex are fun memories and a story to tell, perhaps even a t-shirt.

Here you can find condoms to pack.

Read: The ultimate smart packing list for hostels, including condoms (+ free download)

Packing condoms when traveling

UPDATE 5. Watch out for security cameras

Whatever you, there is one thing you have to remember:

Hostels HAVE cameras.

The cameras are actually there for security purpose – and not to spy on you.

So, therefore, if you are planning to hook up on the roof top terrace or the laundry room…have a look if there is a camera first!

Insider: MANY many hostels out there have “internal sex tapes” of guests hooking up. This is quite funny for them. Well, but not for you, right?!

Keep an eye on cameras – because they will for sure keep an eye on you!

We read on other networks they do recommend the laundry room to hook up. In theory, great advise. But again, make sure there is no camera. You do want to avoid this. You do not want to be that girl that gave the guy a XYZ in the hallway, caught on camera. You do not want to be that guy that …well, you get the idea!

Sex-Stories from Hostels (Barcelona, Paris, London, …)

There are endless stories, and without a doubt, you’ve heard your own stories already.

On reddit there is a whole topic about it. It includes Ghosts, Vienna, and Couple sex in a female-only dorm.

Johnny Blair collected as well 10 tips on how to have sex while traveling.

Lucy from also summarized some horror sex stories while backpacking the world.

Whatever you pick, those articles are interesting to read around this topic!

Needless to say, there are as well many anecdotes from sex in London’s hostels and more. If you have your own, share it with us.

Hostel Sex Stories

Submit your own hostel-sex story (anonymously)

You can send us over your own fun, weird, [place adjective here] story.

Whether it’s from a hostel in London, a roof top in Ho Chi Minh City or the bathroom in Sydney.

You can choose sending it anonymously or with your email, and website link.

We leave this up to you.

Download the Sex Guide

We created a guide, so you can download it to your device. Just click on the image below or download the guide here.

Download the sex hostel guide

Final Words on Sex in Hostels

To sum up then; hostel sex can be a good idea as long as the unspoken rules are followed.

At the end of the day, as long as those involved consent, safe sex is initiated and no one else around has to suffer, there’s no problem.


Read: the 18 hostel rules and etiquette.

Of course the type of hostel is important here.

If you are interested in hostel gay sex, then make sure you read all the reviews of hostels properly. There are some hostels only for gays there, dedicated to exactly this target group. You can find them on Booking and all booking platforms.

Many hostels are as well gay-friendly. Here is our list of the best gay-friendly hostels.

When it comes to party hostels vs. boutique hostels, it becomes obvious which one will attract this kind of fun.

Update: For the hangover after the ride of your life time, here is a list of 33 best wanderlust movies.

Hostel Packing List

Okay, now that you know how to hook up in a hostel – and how not to hook up in a hostel, let’s get the backpack read. Make sure you always pick a quality hostel, it totally reduces the things you need to pack.

Here is our ultimate hostel packing list. It features 23 items you need to pack.

The main things to pack are:

  1. earplugs
  2. eye mask
  3. key chain flashlight
  4. the right backpack, the Lowe Alpine Lightflite 40 Pack
  5. packing cubes
  6. generic padlock
  7. quick-dry travel towel
  8. universal power adapter
  9. travel-sized toiletries
  10. The hostel address – written down

Read the full packing list here.

Download Hostel Packing List

Summary of the 4 Do’s and don’ts:

  1. DON’T: dorm sex
  2. DO: rooftop, shower, even the cleaning cupboard
  3. DO: ask the staff for a private room
  4. DO: get condoms
  5. Remember, there can be cameras!

Hostels are a great accommodation choice for many reasons.

As always we are keen to hear your views on this subject, so leave your comments below.

Do you think hostel sex is a good idea?

Or should it be held off for a more private setting?

Perhaps you work at a hostel and would like to share stories/views from the other side of the reception desk.

This is a chance to share your views and help keep hostels a sociable, happy and welcoming environment for all.

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